November 21, 2008
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When the wife asks, "Do you really love me?"
The squished-from-both-sides husband: boss at work saying "Why aren't you performing well? Why aren't you putting in more time at work? Your job is at risk unless you are willing to put in some overtime like everyone else", while wife at home saying "You aren't spending time with me! You must not really love me! Why don't you love me?" Meanwhile the husband putting in the time at work in order to provide for his family because he loves them and wants to be a good provider, while getting excoriated for that very action by the one he loves... and in response to his wife's question "Do you really love me? Do you really want to spend time with me?" he thinks "Actually, you're making it very difficult for me to enjoy spending time with you, when all I can expect is lecturing and nagging and constant 'do you love me' questioning. Do I enjoy spending time with you right now? Honestly not. But I can't tell you that, because you'll freak out. Do I love you in the sense of wanting what is best for you and being fully committed to you whether you treat me nicely or not? Yes. I will remain faithful to you despite your nagging and pouting and the gentle friendship and temptation of many other beautiful women. But do I enjoy coming home to your sermonizing? No, honestly I do not."
Although I am not married, I am going through lots of 'training', perhaps, in the above scenarios and feelings, through current friends' situations. May God use the training for good in my life and others' lives in the future.
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